Filed under: baby care | Tags: bonding, mothering, baby massage, parenting, natural childbirth blog, baby massage illustrations, how to do baby massage
Postnatal Stimulation
Baby Massage
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Preparation Choose a moment in which you and your child are relaxed and calm. A half hour after the baby has eaten is recommended. Be sure that the room temperature is warm (78 degrees Fahrenheit). Undress the baby completely, if the weather is cold or humid cover the areas of the baby’s body that are not being massaged. Put the baby on a soft surface so your baby will feel comfortable and secure. Keep some little pillows handy. It is a good idea to put some cream on your hands and rub them together so they will be soft and warm. Basically the massage flows from the head to the toes. With soft and gentle touches you will work on the head, face, shoulders, arms, chest, stomach and legs. While you massage your baby look tenderly at him/her. Doing this you stimulate all the senses of the baby and establish a more intense visual and tactile communication. Feel free to speak to your baby, do not inhibit yourself. Remember that your touches should be tender do not make mechanic motions. Try to be flexible by not keeping a rigid routine. If the baby wants to change position let them do so. Do not force your baby to keep a position, you can go back to these areas later on. |
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Technique Pressure to use: |
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Step by Step Description |
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| The head: Touch the forehead, temples and the base of the cranium Eyebrows and eyelids Nose Cheeks The area around the mouth Ears and surrounding area |
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| Jaws: The frontal part of the neck (Remember doing this very gently) Make small strokes and massage the posterior part of the neck with slow movements down to the shoulders. Softly put both hands on his/her shoulders. Caress the baby from the neck to the shoulders in the direction of his chest. |
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| Shoulders and arms: Form a ring with your fingers and thumb around your child’s arm. Begin to caress around the armpit and then go down along the arm. Be very careful when you arrive at the elbow, it is a very sensitive region. In the wrist you can gently practice turning motions using. Remember to take great care with all these motions. |
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| Stomach: Massage the stomach in a circular way (the genitalia area is excluded from the massage). Caress the abdomen moving your hands clockwise beginning below the ribs. |
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| Legs: Caress each leg with your whole hand, press gently on the thighs. Slightly flex the legs and knees pressing the thighs gently against the body. |
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| Heels and feet: A foot massage is very relaxing. Begin by putting a soft pressure on each toe, then the foot and return to the toes again. Sometimes a foot massage can help reduce stomach pain. Caress gently all the toes. Apply circular movements at the heels. |
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| Back: Turn your baby around. Begin with large and slow movements that include head, neck, back and legs always in one direction. Give your baby soft strokes on the shoulders and back and massaging with your fingertips with circular movements. Do not massage the spinal cord, only put your hands over it and let the baby feel the warm sensation. You can even make small circular movements on your baby’s back. Put your hands at the top of the legs and begin gently caressing while working your way down towards the foot. |
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When you arrive to the feet start again from the top. With soft and slow movements finish the massage starting once again at the head and back to the toes. |
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REMEMBER:
Finally: There are many ways to express your love, this is ONLY ONE of them… |
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Filed under: baby care | Tags: baby in nature, baby's development, compassionate intelligence, mothering, parenting
by Diane GordonHow important is it for children to be exposed to nature? “Essential,” says Joann Lundgren, a long-time volunteer with the Foundation for Global
Community. “The earlier children connect with the natural world, the better for them and for society as a whole”
A parent, grandparent, former teacher and school principal, Lundgren heads a team from the Foundation which offers a course for parents and
teachers titled “Children and Nature.” Explains Lundgren: “Allowing the young child to experience the natural world is not just a nice thing to do.
It is vital. Children have a basic need to establish a deep emotional connection to the natural world. Until our society recognizes and finds a way
to honor this need, the future of our culture-and indeed, the future of all life-is endangered. Children who are denied the opportunity to bond with
the Earth are also denied the opportunity to develop a moral compass.

“It is this kind of profound bonding, first with the family and then with the Earth, that ensures that the child by age fourteen will have established a
foundation for compassionate intelligence-an intelligence that has the well-being of all life as its guiding principle. It is our job as adults to ensure
that our children develop that bond.”
One of Lundgren’s inspirations to create the course came from the writings of The Magical Child. The word
“matrix” is the Latin word for womb or origins and is defined as “that within which something originates, forms, or develops.” In Pearce’s model
each matrix provides a safe secure environment, a source of learning. The first transition from the womb and into a new matrix happens at birth,
which is where the Children and Nature course begins.
Photo by Etolene
Filed under: baby care, birth | Tags: apgar scoring system, baby care, birthing, natural birth, newborn assessment
Immediately after the baby is born, the baby will be tested using the APGAR scoring system if it is born in the hospital. If the baby is born at home, it is a good idea to perform this assessment yourself to see help you evaluate how the baby is doing. The APGAR test is performed at 1 minute and 5 minutes after birth. Ideally, the scores should improve during the four minutes that elapse between the two tests. A score of 10 is considered a perfect score. The infant is tested on five different indicators of the well-being, and receives a score of 0, 1 or 2. The items tested are:
| Sign | 0 | 1 | 2 |
| Heart Rate | Absent | Slow | Over 100 |
| Respiratory Effect | Absent | Slow, Irregular | Good, Strong |
| Muscle Tone | Limp | Some Flexion of Extremities | Active Motion |
| Reflex Irritability (response to bulb syringe or lips being touched) |
No Response | Grimace | Cough or sneeze (or strong grimace) |
| Color | Blue, Pale | Body Pink, Exremeties Blue |
Completely Pink |
A score of 8-10 is excellent, 4-7 is guarded, 0-3 is critical. This lets you know how the baby is doing and if he/she is going to need extra assistance.
The baby should be offered the breast immediately because the sucking stimulates the uterus to contract, expel the placenta, and clamp down to reduce blood flow. If the infant does not want to nurse right away, there is no rush to do anything else unless there is hemorrhaging taking place.
Under no circumstances should the umbilical cord be cut until it has stopped pulsing. Babies whose cords are cut immediately have a tendency to become jaundiced or anemic because they did not receive all the blood from the cord and placenta that they needed.
Judie C. Rall and The Center for Unhindered Living
Photo by Barb
Filed under: baby care, birth | Tags: eye antibiotics, heelstick, Hepatitis B Vaccine injection, hospital birth, meconium, mercury poisoning, mothering, newborn assessment, placenta, postpartum hemorrhage, pumping baby's stomach, umbilical cord, vitamin k injection
There are a number of routine newborn procedures that will be offered or recommended at the time of your baby’s birth. It is helpful to learn about these procedures beforehand so that you can gather as much information as you need to make educated choices for your baby. Remember that in your home you have the freedom to create your birth like you want it.
In the hospital, your midwife or obstetrician almost certainly will not provide care for your newborn baby; care will be provided by hospital staff according to the standard protocols of the hospital unless you request otherwise. In some very rare cases, your pediatrician may be present to provide this care. In most cases, there will be an attempt to obtain “informed consent”, but busy hospital staff may simply announce that they are about to perform a procedure and take your silence as consent.
If you choose to decline some of these procedures, you may be asked to sign waivers to satisfy a state requirement. In most cases, you do not have to give a reason for declining any particular treatment. However, in California, you will be asked to sign a religious waiver if you choose not to have a heelstick done on your baby for the newborn screen (aka PKU) within six days after the birth.
This handout contains some introductory information; be sure to ask your pediatrician if you have any questions about these procedures.
Cutting the Umbilical Cord
Premature cutting of the umbilical cord deprives your baby of about 30% of your baby’s blood volume that nature intended to flow from the placenta and cord after birth. Although this “extra” blood usually isn’t necessary for survival, the iron in this blood is meant to help meet the baby’s iron needs during the first six months, since breastmilk is low in iron. In the days immediately after birth, your baby’s body breaks down this surplus blood and stores the iron in the liver. One of the byproducts of the breaking down of the surplus blood is bilirubin, which may cause a mild case of benign jaundice. Because many parents and health care professionals do not understand that this jaundice is normal and harmless, practices have evolved to cut the umbilical cord as soon as possible after the birth to prevent your baby from receiving the normal amount of blood and potentially experiencing jaundice, even though normal.
There is also some thinking that allowing your baby’s blood to flow back from the placenta reduces the size of the placenta, facilitates quicker and easier placental delivery and reduces postpartum hemorrhage.
In addition, cutting the umbilical cord before your baby’s breathing is well established may deprive your baby of life-sustaining oxygen that continues to flow from the placenta for several minutes after birth. Some people suggest waiting until after the umbilical cord has stopped pulsing before cutting the cord. In fact, this may still be too early. As part of the normal adaptation to breathing outside the womb, your baby’s body stops sending blood back to the placenta (which is what causes the pulse) some minutes before it stops receiving oxygenated blood from the placenta and umbilical cord, which doesn’t pulse.
Unfortunately, many institutions do not have personnel trained in resuscitating your baby while still receiving oxygen through the umbilical cord – their training is limited to working at the baby warming station across the room. This means that babies that most need to continue receiving oxygen through the umbilical cord (because they’re having trouble breathing or are in some other kind of distress) are the babies who are most likely to have their oxygen source – the placenta and umbilical cord – disconnected prematurely so they can be moved to the baby warming station.
Because this procedure is usually carried out without receiving parental permission, it is wise to discuss this with your care provider if the issue is important to you.
About cord blood collection - “Cord blood” is blood that would flow into your baby’s body if the cord weren’t cut to collect it. If you wouldn’t allow your baby’s blood to be drawn and 30% of the baby’s blood volume removed, then you probably don’t want to allow “cord blood collection”.
Suctioning the Baby’s Stomach
Many hospitals routinely suction or “pump” the baby’s stomach after birth, even if there was no evidence of meconium at birth. This procedure has no benefits - it can cause a sudden drop in the heart rate and can cause throat irritation that will interfere with breathing and breastfeeding.
Eye Antibiotics
The purpose of routine administration of antibiotic medication (erythromycin ointment) to your baby’s eyes about an hour after birth is to prevent infection from any germs that your baby may have been exposed to in passing through the birth canal. Some people object to this procedure on principle because of their objections to the routine use of antibiotics without proven benefit. Discomfort to the baby is minimal, and there is little disruption of the bonding procedure if the procedure is delayed until after the baby has fallen into the post-birth stupor. However, the benefits of routine administration are also minimal; if the baby does develop an eye infection, it will be very obvious to observant parents, and then there is plenty of time to administer antibiotics to prevent serious consequences.
Vitamin K Injection
Routine injection of vitamin K is controversial. It is generally accepted that administering vitamin K will increase clotting factors and reduce the incidence of Newborn Hemorrhagic Disease (NHD), a very rare situation in which a baby bleeds internally. NHD is seen much more commonly in babies who have experienced a traumatic birth, such as by forceps or vacuum extraction, or who are visibly bruised at birth. Although giving vitamin K to increase clotting factors does reduce the incidence of NHD, it also appears to increase the likelihood of death from bacterial meningitis. Nature obviously intended for newborns to have lowered clotting factors at birth, although science does not yet understand why.
Opposition to routine vitamin K administration centers around the injection itself, and many people who oppose the injection will accept an oral administration of the same formulation. (A study conducted at Children’s Hospital, University of Missouri, Columbia, found administration of oral vitamin K to be effective. [Journal of Pediatrics, vol. 127 #2, Aug., 1995, page 301, "Twenty-seven years of experience with oral vitamin K1 therapy in neonates" by Clark and James.] Oral doses of vitamin K should be twice the injected dose, and there are suggestions to repeat the dose at two, four and six weeks of age.
Colostrum contains high levels of vitamin K, and if your baby experiences a gentle birth and nurses readily at birth, your baby will probably receive exactly the dose intended by nature. If you choose to have your baby receive supplementary vitamin K, it might be worth discussing oral administration with your pediatrician in advance. Even if they don’t have a special oral preparation, they can use the preparation meant for injection.
Whether or not your baby receives vitamin K supplementation, it is best to contact your baby’s care provider if you notice that your baby seems to have a lot of bruises or an unusual amount of bleeding from the umbilical cord stump. This is a common precursor to more serious bleeding problems.
Hepatitis B Vaccine Injection
For the last few years, it has been the standard of care to vaccinate all newborns with a Hepatitis B Vaccine before they left the hospital. However, on July 7, 1999, it was reported that the American Academy of Pediatrics is now recommending that newborns not be vaccinated because the mercury used as a preservative in the vaccines has been implicated in mercury poisoning occurring in babies. Some hospitals may still be vaccinating newborns as they use up their store of vaccines. If you do not want your baby to receive the Hepatitis B vaccine, it is important that you be very clear about this with the neonatal team, the nursery staff and your pediatrician.
Photo by Sean Dreillinger
Filed under: baby care, birth | Tags: birth trauma, bonding, healing birth trauma, siblings, VBAC
Ronnie Falcao, homebirth midwife, CA:
I’m often struck by how much VBAC moms insist on having their older siblings present at the birth, especially the ones born by cesarean. It finally struck me that this is yet another example of a mother’s wonderfully strong instinct about providing the best possible care for her children.
In my studies of the hormones of birth, I’ve learned that the stress of labor causes a woman’s body to release endorphins to ease the pain and to facilitate a primal bonding with her baby. In a natural labor, the levels of these hormones are significant, and they are passed through to the baby also to ease the stress on the baby. As a fun side effect, the endorphins seem to fill the air around the laboring woman so that her birth attendants also get to enjoy them. There’s a reason why birth attendants sometimes call themselves “natural birth junkies”.
Endorphins are the “love hormones” released during childbirth and breastfeeding, and they really are like an aphrodisiac, causing people “under the influence” to fall in love with each other without any rational filtering. I try not to usurp the power of these hormones, and I work hard to keep the family focused on each other in that first hour after birth, because I want them bonding with each other instead of with me.
I have previously understood how these endorphins can have a wonderful healing effect for couples who have had a past traumatic birth, as the mom is under the influence of nature’s finest “narcotic”, and the dad absorbs them from the air around her. But it was this most recent discussion about siblings at VBAC that helped me realize that this also pertains to the older children who were born through a traumatic birth process. If they are present at the VBAC, these older children get to enjoy and absorb the endorphins and bond with their families in a way that they missed completely at their own birth. Nature heals.
Ronnie Falcao’s Midwifery Archives
Photo By Jennifer Schwalm
Filed under: baby care | Tags: antibiotica babies, breastfeeding, Child's heath, GE, genetically engineered food, GMO, GMO's, healthy baby, infant formula
Putting Infants and Children at Risk
Most infant formula sold in the US contains GE ingredients, either soy or milk from cows injected with GE hormones. Some also contain corn syrup. Cereals can contain ingredients like GE soy lecithin.
As globalization spreads, a number of issues arise which have the potential to affect infant nutrition. One such concerns is that of Genetically Engineered (GE) or Genetically Modified Organisms (GMOs) and their use in infant formula and infant foods.
The process of genetic engineering is imprecise and random. Inserted genes can disrupt a plant’s natural growth and development or function differently than expected. As a consequence, genetically engineered foods can have unintended effects, with potentially harmful consequences for human health. The end result could be the bio-synthesis of food molecules that are toxic, allergenic, or carcinogenic - hardly the perfect food for babies.
Putting Infants and Children at Risk
The use of GMOs is of particular concern for infants and young children. Many authorities are concerned because GMOs in baby foods are not adequately tested for safety and should not be used in baby foods as artificially fed infants are dependent on formula as their sole source of food for month on end.
Infant formula is already a inferior food for babies, putting them at greater risk for variety of illnesses including ear and upper respiratory infections, asthma, diabetes and cancer. These risks may be increased when infant formula is genetically engineered. GMO ingredients can alter the nutritional value of baby foods, increase exposure to toxins, and elevate the risk of developing allergies and resistance to antibiotics.
According to Vyvyan Howard, a toxilogical pathologist at the Liverpool University Hospital: “Swapping genes between organisms can produce unknown toxic effects and allergies that are most likely to effect children.”
In the United States, foods for infants and young children containing GMO do not require labeling or testing. as a result, concerned parents can’t avoid feeding GE food to their children.
Some of the food safety concerns are:
1. Allergenicity:
Introducing unknown genes can increase food sensitivity that can lead to food allergies later in life. Unlike the contents of breastmilk that vary with the diet of the mother and stage of infancy, the composition of formula remains constant. Since food sensitivities increase with exposure, repeated feedings with the same formula further increases the risk of allergies.
Genetic engineering also has the potential to transfer allergies from one food source to another. For example, a nut gene inserted into soybeans produced soy that caused allergic reactions in people who were allergic to nuts. GE could also introduce new, unpredictable allergens from non-food genes inserted through the process of genetic engineering.
2.Toxicity:
Genetic engineering could increase and/or introduce new food toxins.
3. Nutritional changes:
Genetic engineering could alter or decrease a food’s nutritional value.
4. Antibiotic resistance
Genetic engineering could contribute to the growing problem of antibiotic resistance. Current transgenic plants may contain antibiotic resistant marker genes (a technique used to show weather gene transfers have been successfully completed).
5. Labelling:
Lax labelling laws in the United States encourage the use of GMOs, allowing companies to include these organisms in formula and other infant foods without the consent of the consumer.The fact that the US government refuses to require mandatory labelling of genetically engineered food makes it impossible to adequately conduct post-marketing, long-term surveillance of the effects of consuming GE foods - and who also refuses to label GE foods - could be compromising the well-being of newborn, babies and children.
The most effective way to voice your concerns about GMOs is to vote with your wallet. To ensure the food safety of you infants and young children:
* Follow the WHO recommendation of EXCLUSIVE BREASTFEEDING FOR THE FIRST SIX MONTHS OF LIFE and continued breastfeeding to two years and beyond.
* When introducing solid foods, make your own from organic fruits and vegetables or buy certified organic baby foods.
* If a baby food doesn’t specify weather or not a product is GE-free, use the toll-free number on most product packaging to call the manufacturer. If they don’t know - or won’t tell-you - if their product contains GE ingredients - DON’T BUY IT!
Filed under: baby care | Tags: chickenpox vaccine, dangers of vaccines, newborn, vaccines
Filed under: baby care | Tags: baby care, baby diving, baby swimming, bonding, child raising, consciouc parenting, swimming, toddler swimming, water, waterbirth blog
Focusing on the infant-toddler’s level of well-being and readiness, baby swimming is taken to a higher level beyond that of strictly acquisition of physical skills. Baby swimming has so much to offer when approached in a nurturing, child-paced, “baby friendly” environment: boundless joy, self confidence, personal development, as well as happy, healthy and well adjusted children.

Raising a child will be the most important job a parent will ever have and growing up is never easy. That is why well informed, intelligent “child raising” choices by parents are necessary in order to provide their offspring a positive start in life. We must remember that while we teach the children to respect the water, we must never lose our respect for the children during the learning process, where our foremost concern must be with the well-being of the child. Teaching a baby to swim is a subtle, long term process which requires interpersonal sensitivity, altruistic motivation, insight, skill and joy. Patient parents who are able to enjoy the moment and at the same time “stay the course” will rediscover the virtue of water and it’s ability to nourish their baby’s entire being. For the right people, in the right situation, baby swimming can foster a connectedness to family, community and to the outer world. A cooperative partnership between parent, child and teacher is key to creating the kind of harmonious relationship necessary to gently and playfully guide our young Diaper Dolphins.
Baby Swimming - the Gentle Journey
Photo by Theron Parlin
Filed under: baby care, birth | Tags: ahimsa, birth, child care, cutting the umbilical cord, healthy baby, lotus birth, navel infection, placenta, umbilical cord, when to cut the cord
Q: What is Lotus Birth exactly?
A: The practice of neonatal umbilical intactness - nonseverance of the umbilical cord - and absence of any
potential portal of navel infection. The birth practice of the early American pioneers who produced some of the
hardiest children known in American history… and valued everything they had. Also called “Umbilical
Nonseverance.” The baby, cord, and placenta are treated as one unit, as they are all originate from the same
cellular source (egg and sperm).
This informed choice practice requests healthcare providers to follow the protocols of “Passive Management” of
Third Stage Labor, and also forego invasive cord clamping. The baby is born and remains attached to its cord
while the placenta is birthed. The baby’s placenta-cord is kept in-situ with the baby, gently wrapped in cloth
or kept in an uncovered bowl near the mother, and the cord is sometimes wrapped in silk ribbon up to the
baby’s belly.
The cord quickly dries and shrinks in diameter, similar to sinew, and detaches often by the 3rd
Postpartum day (but up to a week in certain humid indoor air conditions) leaving a perfect, healed navel.
Interestingly, extended-delayed cord clamping & severing (just waiting more than an hour after the baby’s
birth), results in quicker cord stump healing, with an average of only one week for detachment of the stump,
which makes a big difference for diaper changing!
Read more at Lotusfertility.com

Elias is shown here at 6 weeks. Defying current medical midwifery & pediatric standards of
‘normal,’ this relaxed and aware child born at 8lbs 4oz. did not experience the typical American
neonatal stresses of injections, circumcision, weight loss, and breastfeeding jaundice. He grows,
glows, and gazes with a uncommon American infant VITALITY that brings total strangers to
spontaneous states that can only be described as inspiration, wherever his family goes.
Filed under: baby care, breastfeeding | Tags: baby care, breastfeeding, breastfeeding blog, family, mothering, motherly love, successful mothering
Many psychatrists have stated form time to time not only that man relives the moment of his birth, but also that his mental development will arise from the earliest association with life. If this is true, the happiness radiated by the nursing mother breast-feeding her child must envelop the infant in an aura of blissful associations with its earliest beginnings.
No hot blanket, guardian nurse or weaning bottle can replace the physiological character formation of the breast-fed baby. There is no substitute for mother love. The relationship between those who love and those who are loved is not a sentimental association but reality. There is a mutual transference of a force which elevates both the mind and the body to a higher plane of human development than the implementation of impersonal scientific procedures and synthetic devices
Man cannot feed the baby within the uterus. What justifies his presumption that he is able to improve upon the physiological provision because the child has recently left the uterus? We can fortify and reinforce with certain substances the adequacy of both the placental and the breast nutrition, but the basic natural nourishment supplies something which no concoction can contain.
Although a skilled physician can write prescriptions for mixtures upon which children will thrive, they cannot include the personality factor of successful mothering. They can build bonnie and beautiful babies whose bodies are the pride of their nurses and a profit to the advertisers of patent foos. Without mothering, a nation of gladiators can arise, but if the seeds of mother love had been implanted in early infancy and fostered in youth, should we have seen the tragedies and the indescribable horrors of the last fifteen or twenty years? Breast-feeding has a sociological value far greater than is generally recognised.
From “Childbirth Without Fear” by Grantly Dick-Read
Photo by Brunna Perett
Click to see my hubpage on GMOs in infant formula
Filed under: aqua midwife, baby care, birth, empowered childbirth, homebirth, midwifery | Tags: waterbirth, midwife, waterbirth at home, waterbirth midwife, waterbirth Europe, waterbirth Germany, Cornelia Enning, waterbirth contact, aqua midwife
It is a great pleasure and honor for me to announce my new series of translations from the website of aqua-midwife Cornelia Enning from Germany. Her work is admirable. If you have any questions or are interested in her services, feel free to contact me:
For direct contact with aqua-midwife Cornelia Enning:
Keplerstr. 16, D-75417 Mühlacker
Telefon: 011-49 (07042) 15536 FAX : 011-49 (07042) 950945
Cornelia Enning has been a licensed midwife in Muehlacker, Germany since 1972. She has been doing homebirths/waterbirths since 1975. She received a B.E. in psychology and pedagogy in 1972 from the University of Berlin. She has been doing homebirths and waterbirths since 1975 and is the founder of the German parents association “Wasserbabies.”
Cornelia is editor of the quarterly Wasserbaby-Post and author of several books about waterbirth at home and in hospitals. She directs the German Federation of Aquapaedagogik and instructs parents in water training for newborns. In addition, she has taught waterbirth midwifery to more than 4000 midwives and obstetricians. Cornelia has two adult children and one granddaughter.
Filed under: baby care, birth, breastfeeding, postpartum care | Tags: colostrum, benefits of colostrum, what is colostrum, colostrum and breastfeeding, brestfeeding, nursing after birth, meconium, premature babies, infant mortality rate
The sooner after delivery that breastfeeding is begun, the more colostrum your baby will receive. The sooner you nurse your baby after delivery, the better. Colostrum comes in small quantities and prepares your baby’ digestive tract for receiving the milk that comes later by stimulating the baby’s first bowel movement. Meconium, the black, tarry stuff that passes in the first stool, contains bilubrin, the substance that causes jaundice in newborns.
Colostrum contains white blood cells which are there to prevent infection in the newborn by attacking harmful bacteria. Colostrum is easy to digest with its high protein, low sugar and fat content, so it is an ideal first food.Dr. Robert Jackson, a member of the Professional Advisory Board for La Leche League International, has also pointed out these interesting facts about colostrum:The proportions of the constituents in human milk gradually change; the colostrum of the first day is not the same as the colostrum of the second; with the transitional milk there is a gradual consistent change intimately related to the needs of the baby.
Therefore no matter how much artificial formulas are improved, it’s never going to be possible to manufacture formulas for the first day, the second, the third, and so o, that are as suited to baby’s needs as his mother’s own milk. Don’t worry if your baby looses a little weight before your milk comes in. Nearly every newborn will loose some weight after birth.Your baby is born with enough extra fluid to tide him over until your milk is in. A slight weight loss is normal and usually quickly recovered once your milk supply is well established.
Colostrum is specially important to premature babies because it contains high amounts of amino acid cystine, an important component of protein, which premature babies lack. What to speak of the intimate connection between the nursing mother and the child which the infant needs for a healthy development. Studies show that the mortality rate from one to six month is less for breastfed babies than for artificially fed premature infants.
Filed under: baby care, birth, pregnancy | Tags: awareness of embryo, bonding, child in the womb, emotional development, emotional life, father, fathering, feelings of embryo, in utero, love, mothering, parenthood, pregnancy depression, prenatal parenting, smoking during pregnancy, smoking mother, thinking about abortion, unborn child
from “The Secret Life of the Unborn Child”
by Thomas Verny, M.D. with John Kelly
Selected Quotes
… at one time or another nearly every expectant mother senses that she and her unborn child are reacting to one another’s feelings. …
* A corollary to this discovery is that what a child feels and perceives begins shaping his attitudes and expectations about himself. Whether he ultimately sees himself and, hence, acts as a happy or sad, aggressive or meek, secure or anxiety-ridden person depends, in part, on the messages he gets about himself in the womb.
* The chief source of those shaping messages is the child’s mother. This does not mean every fleeting worry, doubt or anxiety a woman has rebounds on her child. What matters are deep persistent patterns of feeling. Chronic anxiety or a wrenching ambivalence about motherhood can leave a deep scar on an unborn child’s personality. On the other hand, such life-enhancing emotions as joy, elation and anticipation can contribute significantly to the emotional development of a healthy child.
* New research is also beginning to focus much more on the father’s feelings. Until recently his emotions were disregarded. Our latest studies indicate that this view is dangerously wrong. They show that how a man feels about his wife and unborn child is one of the single most important factors in determining the success of a pregnancy. …
With this new knowledge at their disposal, mothers and fathers have an unparalleled opportunity to help shape the personality of their unborn child. They can actively contribute to his happiness and well-being, and not just in utero, nor in the years immediately following birth, but for the rest of his life. …
Providing the newborn with a warm, reassuring, humane environment does make a difference because the child is very aware of how he is born. He senses gentleness, softness and a caring touch, and he responds in a quite different way to the bright lights, electrical beeps, and cold impersonal atmosphere that are so often associated with a medical birth. …
… he is conscious or aware though his consciousness is not as deep or complex as an adult’s. He is incapable of understanding the shades of meaning an adult can put into a simple word or gesture; but, … he is sensitive to remarkably subtle emotional nuances. He can sense and react not only to large, undifferentiated emotions such as love and hate, but also to more shaded complex feeling states like ambivalence and ambiguity. … something like consciousness exists from the very first moments of conception ….
… the child from the sixth month in utero onward … can already remember, hear, even learn. The unborn child is, in fact, a very quick study, as a group of investigators demonstrated in what has come to be regarded as a classic report.
… Our likes and dislikes, fears and phobias … are in part, also the product of conditioned learning. … the sensation of anxiety … his mother’s smoking … an unborn child grows emotionally agitated (as measured by the quickening of his heartbeat) each time his mother thinks of having a cigarette. She doesn’t even have to put it to her lips or light a match; just her idea of having a cigarette is enough to upset him. … drop in oxygen supply (in the maternal blood passing the placenta) … psychological effects … thrusts him into a chronic state of uncertainty and fear.
In one case, a newborn girl refused to bond with or nurse from her own mother, though she did not refuse other women. The mother, it turned out, had wanted to have an abortion and bore the child grudgingly at the father’s insistence. With such mothers, the “child lacks a feeling person to whom he can attach himself. His mother becomes absorbed in herself and has no resources left for the baby”; nor can he bond with a woman overburdened with anxiety or frustration.
If loving, nurturing mothers bear more self-confident, secure children, it is because the self-aware “I” of each infant is carved out of warmth and love. Similarly, if unhappy, depressed or ambivalent mothers bear a higher rate of neurotic children, it is because their offsprings’ egos were molded in moments of dread and anguish. Not surprisingly, without redirection, such children often grow into suspicious, anxious and emotionally fragile adults.
Widespread recognition of the delicate and intimate connections between parent and child prenatally and in infancy will lead naturally to a more realistic idea of the far-reaching responsibility of parenthood, and new respect for the impact of our inner life on those around us.
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The World Health Organization states (Care in Normal Birth: A Practical Guide) “Late clamping (or not clamping at all) is the physiological way of treating the cord, and early clamping is an intervention that needs justification.”Dr. M. Jeffrey Maisels says “If the cord is not clamped, the placenta gives the infant the equivalent of 20 cc of blood per kilogram of body weight within these first 3 minutes. This placental transfusion in the normal infant is equivalent to the amount of blood given to an infant in profound shock.
When cords are not clamped early, the third stage of labor is one-third shorter and the total mean blood loss after delivery is substantially less than when cords are clamped early. This might be because when cords are not clamped, the placenta is allowed to give up its volume of blood. It thereby contracts and separates more easily from the uterine wall.
It is wise to think of the placenta as one of the baby’s organs. What rational human being would even consider amputating a live organ when waiting just an hour or so will cause it to expire naturally?
What you can do: If you are planning a hospital birth, discuss with your physician your wish of delayed clamping. Most medical practitioners are not educated about the function of the umbilical cord after birth, and you may end up having to do some education in order to see that your baby gets the best care.
Regardless of their rules, you have absolute legal right to say what does and does not happen to your baby. You need to make your wishes clear and if your doctor is unwillingly to assist your needs, you may want to re-evaluate your choice of a physician.
This issue is easier to handle when having a home birth, but be sure to make your wishes clear to your midwife. Do not assume that the cord will not be immediately clamped. And of course if you are having an unassisted birth, you need only do what you choose! [www.gentlebirth.org]
What is Lotus Birth? Lotus birth is the practice of leaving the umbilical cord uncut, so that the baby remains attached to his/her placenta until the cord naturally separates at the umbilicus - exactly as a cut cord does - at 3 to 10 days after birth. This prolonged contact can be seen as a time of transition, allowing the baby to slowly and gently let go of his/her attachment to the mother’s body.
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Massaging a newborn is one of the most enjoyable and fulfilling activities you can participate in. As parents, we long to touch our newborns from the moment of their births. We want to go over every finger, every limb, marveling at the wonder “we’ve” created. Massage gives us the opportunity to do this, while being very nice for the baby, as well.
A wonderful massage you can do from the very first day your baby is born is a castor oil massage. A time-honored East Indian tradition reputed to reduce the heat in the baby’s system caused by the friction of birth, it also makes the baby’s skin lovely and soft, even on wrinkly feet. Buy castor oil from a local health food store and try to get ‘cold-pressed’ if you can.
In preparation for the massage, make sure your room is nice and warm. Lay a towel on the bed or the floor and lay a receiving blanket over it to make a nice, soft place for the baby to lie. You may also want to place a sheet of plastic beneath the towel in case the baby pees while you are in the middle of the massage. Have another blanket or two close by to cover the parts of the baby you are not massaging to keep the baby warm. If it is the middle of summer, or you are in a very hot room, this may not be necessary.
Warm your hand by rubbing them together, or running them under hot water. Undress your baby and lay her face up on the towel. Pour about a tablespoon of oil into your palms and rub them them together to warm the oil.
Beginning with the chest area, slowly ang gently rub the oil onto the baby, starting from the center and moving down to the sides. You will notice the oil is very sticky. Rub the oil onto the baby very slowly so you don’t pull the skin, adding more oil to keep your hands well lubricated.
After the chest, move to the abdomen and rub in small circles, clockwise in the direction th large intestines move. If your baby has not had a first bowel movement, expelling the sticky, brownish black meconium that filled the intestines in utero, don’t be surprised if the castor oil massage stimulates this expulsion.
After the abdomen, move to the legs. GEntly massage from the feet toward the hips, which helps to return the blood from the legs to the heart, and then massage the feet themkselves.
Rubbing in little circles in the center of the feet and on the heel for the accupressure points for the colon can also help to stimulate the expulsion of the meconium. From the feet move to the arms and massage from the wrists to the shoulders, and then the hands, gently rubbing the palm to stimulate the colon.
Next carefully roll the baby over and massage the back, stroking from the center out to the sides. Rub up in around the neck and down all over the buttocks. Last, roll the baby back over and massage the face and head. It is fine to get the oil in the baby’s hair and ears, just remember to be careful with the soft spot on the top of the baby,s head where the bones have not yet closed.
After you are done, wrap the baby in a receiving blanket, and another warm blanket and, if it is at all cold, put a hat on the baby’s head. The baby will seem very sticky for about twelve hours until all the castor oil has been absorbed. Then you will noticethat any dry skin is gone, and that everything, including the hair, is soft and silky.
You can give your baby a castor oil bath as often as you like, even every day is not too frequently, as they never seem to outgrow their love of massage.
[From ‘Choosing Waterbirth, reclaiming the sacred power of birth’ - by Lakshmi Bertram; Photo by Valentina Powers]
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The hours after birth are extremley important ones; they can deeply affect the future realationship between the child and the parents. Time spent together during those first few hours and days after the birth lay the groundwork for a profound relationship with one another. Becoming deeply bonded is vital for the family and can be wonderful satisfying to all.
And, one might ask, why should it be any other way? Perhaps no aspect of conventional birthing has caused as much distress for new mothers, fathers, and babies as hospital policies that require separation at a time when parents most want and need to be with their babies. There is no good medical reason to separate a heathy newborn baby from his mother.
In 1989 Dr. Mardsen Wagner, an American born pediatrician who is currently a consultant to the Maternal/Child Health division of WHO, lectured “I am convinced the procedure of placing all newborn babies in one room was the biggest mistake of modern medicine.” He further refers to the newborn nursery as “a cradle of germs, separating babies from their mothers at the most sensitive point of their relationship.
Sheila Kitzinger, well presented British childbirth educator and author, noted, “A screaming baby alone in its cot or lined up with rows of other screaming newborns is a neglected baby. He cannot know that help is near, that milk is coming in half an hour, or twenty minutes or even five minutes. He cannot know that loving arms are waiting to hold him. He is to all intents and purposes completley isolated and abandoned.
In a gentle birth the mother is awake and aware, highly conscious, energized by having given birth, and extremley eager to spend time with her child-touching, looking, feeding, resting, or sleeping together. The newborn wants the comforting presence of his mother, her warmth, touch, sound and smells. Exerpts from “Gentle Birth Choices” by Barbara Harper, R.N.
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